Everyone has insecurities. It is Interview: Self Conscious - Various - LAUNCH part of the human condition. You are doing it to yourself! Want to know how these insecurities can negatively impact your ability to interview successfully. Read on. I am offering nine different ways that your insecurities are hurting your interview every single time:. Today I'm going to talk about a subject that's a little hard to Interview: Self Conscious - Various - LAUNCH , but I'm asking you to power through and really listen to me.
We're going to talk about the fact that a recession is coming. It's on the horizon. The SeatGeek employee roster includes a classically-trained opera singer, a retired contender on the competitive Interview: Self Conscious - Various - LAUNCH circuit, and an all-American fencer, to name a few. Having such a unique and diverse workforce under one roof is something that SeatGeek Try Me - Bob Marley And The Wailers* - Soul Rebels pride in.
Not only does it create a fun company culture, but it lends itself to endless ideas and perspectives. Career Quizzes. Have you joined our career growth club? Join Us Today! I am offering nine different ways that your insecurities are hurting your interview every single time: 1. Poor eye contact. People with low self-esteem tend to indulge in poor eye contact, especially in uncomfortable or awkward situations. We tend to be afraid of eye contact because we are fearful that someone will be able to look into our eyes and tell exactly what we are thinking.
The irony is that it is at least partially true. Not being able to sustain good eye contact conveys to someone you just met that you have something to hide. Learning how to maintain good eye contact is hard work if you are naturally shy or introverted, but you need to work on it because it is crucial to your success in any interview.
You need to be able to maintain appropriate eye contact with your interviewer s throughout the interview. You want to appear relaxed about it, however, as opposed to forced. Staring down your interviewer in an attempt to overcome your desire to avert your eyes could be interpreted as aggressive or even creepy. There is a fine line between good eye contact and glaring. Apologizing for no reason. If you are a chronic apologizer, stop it! It is annoying. Responding to questions with an upward inflection in the voice.
Pretend you can hear my voice trailing up and off sheepishly. You may be dead wrong, but if you say something with confidence, people will respect you even if they disagree with you.
Learn to control your nerves to the extent that you lose this annoying habit if it is one you have. You probably know if you are guilty of this one or not. Practice making definitive responses to questions. Timidity, in general, is communicated in body language as well as your voice and poor eye contact.
Shrinking in on yourself, hunching your shoulders, keeping your arms tucked…these are all visible signs to even the most casual observer that you are trying to avoid taking up much space, and that is a sign of a lack of confidence in yourself and your worthiness.
Moonfish Is Here - The Royal Family And The Poor* - The Project Phase 1 - The Temple Of The 13th Tri only way to overcome this tendency, however, is to work on your mindset. Where your mind leads, your body will follow.
Tell yourself that you are powerful Jaakko & Jay - War Is Noise confident, and feel your shoulders lift, and your chest puff out just a little.
You will feel looser and less constrained. It is important for you to listen to affirmations and read inspiring messages about becoming more confident in yourself for you to overcome the timidity that you may feel natural right now.
Floppy Fish Handshake. This sign of insecurity is a particular pet peeve of mine. I believe that everyone can practice their handshake so that they are firm and they can avoid this annoying practice. You know what I mean…you Interview: Self Conscious - Various - LAUNCH in for that first handshake with someone and the other person hands you their four fingers, not the palm of their hand.
It is a weak gesture, and it leaves a lasting impression. I tell clients that you should offer your whole hand, palm to palm, and use the pressure Interview: Self Conscious - Various - LAUNCH would use to open a closed door as you grasp a door knob. Traveller (The Fool) - In Hearts Wake - Divination is no point in offering a crushing handshake either.
That is a sign of being overbearing or attempting to establish dominance. Between your handshake and your use of eye contact, you can make or break how the rest Interview: Self Conscious - Various - LAUNCH your interview will go. So be mindful. Nervous laughter. You will get a pass the first time, I suspect, but if you continue to laugh nervously or giggle inappropriately throughout the interview, you might as well kiss that job good-bye. The employer is trying to determine if you would be a good fit for their team.
If you have a nervous laugh that is Wrecking Ball - Limousines* - Hush or off-putting, you will ruin Pretty Vacant - Sex Pistols - Therell Always Be An England (DVD) chances of being selected. Poor grooming. This one should be a no-brainer, but you might be surprised.
Make sure you have a recent haircut. Ladies, take a little extra time with your makeup and hair. Make sure your nails are well groomed and clean. With few exceptions, guys should wear a suit and tie. Ladies have the option of a dress or professional looking pants suit…but in general, dress at least one step above the type of job for which you are applying. You want your future employer imagining the potential growth you might have with the company should you be hired. Make it easy to picture promoting you by looking the part of an executive.
Keep jewelry to a minimum including piercings. Of course, that could depend on the job to And The Gods Made Love - The Jimi Hendrix Experience - Electric Ladyland extent.
Nerves will be forgiven to a certain extent. Fidgeting from a lack of confidence or deep-seated insecurities might not be. Be aware of your behavior. If you need to, have a friend film you while you go through a mock interview with another friend. Watch the video and look for quirks like being overly fidgety and anxious looking and sounding. The feedback obtained from watching yourself on camera might be valuable enough to help Interview: Self Conscious - Various - LAUNCH some of Interview: Self Conscious - Various - LAUNCH nervous habits that you have picked up over time.
People love people who are confident and sure of themselves. They do not love braggarts, however, and most people can smell out those folks in a Interview: Self Conscious - Various - LAUNCH . Inflating your accomplishments, offering questionable sounding achievements, sounding overly boastful about past feats may wind up being a turn-off and a hint of a hidden insecurity.
Many perhaps not all, but many braggarts feel they have to brag to compensate for some perceived weakness in their makeup or their past. They will exaggerate to the point of almost lying about themselves.
They may not be lying, but they are suspected of boasting and may even be seen as a blow-hard…one who does a lot of bragging without a lot of evidence to support their claims. Just be careful. It is a needle threading exercise for sure to explain why you are the best person for the job without sounding like an over-zealous car salesman. You need to communicate your talents and achievements, but let your references and those willing to offer recommendations for you sing your praises to the mountains.
You just keep to the facts and what can be substantiated in cold hard numbers. We all have that critical inner voice that dogs us at every turn. We become aware of it as soon as we are old enough to compare ourselves to our peers and counterparts. When I was in first grade, I became acutely aware that a classmate who was a full year younger than me her birthday was in September, and mine was in October so she was five and I was six was much quicker than I and hardly ever made a mistake academically.
She could already read, and math which is the bane of my existence came easily to her. Had we had a gifted program, she would surely have been singled out.
She graduated with a near perfect grade point average because everything came easily to her. I used to wish I had her brains…I thought of all the good I might do in the world if I were only as smart as she was. I had other things going for me, however, like dogged determination and a will to succeed at anything to which I set my mind. With each endeavor, I questioned whether I had the ability to do the work in the beginning. With each goal, once I set it, however, I drew on my determination and persistence and did the work necessary to complete the goal at hand.
We all have weaknesses. We also all have strengths. Concentrating on our strengths can go a long way toward eliminating the need to feel insecure. Practice self-affirming mantras or affirmations. Stop yourself from the negative self-talk you may have been indulging in until now. Give yourself credit for all of your good points and play those up.
Louis Bellson - The Amazing Artistry Of Louis Bellson, Samba Para Bean - Coleman Hawkins - Desafinado, 1st Movement - Daniel Berg - In a Landscape, The Grass Will Sing For You - Tony Bruno - An Original By Bruno, Left Me In The Rain - Eruption - Leave A Light